Transgender issue leads club to cancel membership

By Shannan Bowen, Wilmington StarNews
Source: http://www.starnewsonline.com/article/20100714/ARTICLES/100719840/1177?Title=Sex-issue-leads-club-to-remove-member&tc=ar# 

Besides the obvious, life was different when Rachael Gieschen was a man. Gieschen had a membership to a beach-side club in Wrightsville Beach, founded a century ago by her family, and was part of a tight-knit local German community.

But now 69-year-old Gieschen, who transitioned physically three years ago to live as a woman, is left hurt and feeling discriminated against after the board of directors for Hanover Seaside Club decided to cancel her membership, citing reasons such as members expressing “agitation and concern” about Gieschen’s presence as a woman.

Gieschen has not filed a lawsuit against the Wrightsville Beach club, which is at 601 S. Lumina Ave. Instead, she said she and her attorney are trying to resolve issues with the club amicably in an attempt to have her membership reinstated.

“We think it’s the right time for the club to come back and give me my membership back,” she said.

Michael Silverman, an attorney retained by Gieschen who works at a law firm representing transgender issues, said there are several things the club can do to help its members accept Gieschen’s new identity, such as member orientations and educational meetings.

“Essentially what they’re telling us is people feel uncomfortable. While that may in fact be true, our feeling is it’s natural and predictable to feel uncomfortable, but there’s a lot of things the club can do to not exclude someone,” he said.

From man to woman

Gieschen’s physical transition took more than 60 years. The signs that something was different came early, between 6 to 9 years old, but growing up in the 1940s meant she was expected to live as the gender and sex with which she was born.

“It was a life on a revolving stage each second, each minute,” she said.

Gieschen was married twice, had five children and retired after almost 23 years with the U.S. Air Force.

Finally, after spending a short time as a cross-dresser in which she would dress up in women’s clothes, Gieschen was diagnosed in 2007 by her therapist as being transgender, meaning she did not identify with her gender role as a man. That began her physical process of becoming a woman.

Gieschen, who legally changed her first name to Rachael, said she wrote the club’s board of directors in 2008 to inform them about the change in her life.

After no response, she visited the club on vacation. Gieschen, who grew up in Wilmington and now lives in Raleigh, said no one at the club spoke to her, and she was snubbed by people she considered family and friends most her life.

‘Kicked out’

The president of the club’s board of directors wrote Gieschen in May 2009 to suggest she resign her membership based on the concerns the club had about her presence there.

The letter said Gieschen caused members to experience discomfort and distress at her last visit to the club. The letter also addressed bathroom facilities. “Other members’ comments support the conclusion that, although you are now a woman, members will be uncomfortable regardless of which locker rooms or rest rooms you use. In view of the physical limitations of the club, we do not see how this problem can be resolved to everyone’s satisfaction,” the letter said.

The board of directors gave Gieschen the chance to meet with them, but they declined allowing her therapist to come and talk about being transgender, Gieschen said. After that meeting, the board’s president sent a letter informing Gieschen that the board thought it was in the club’s best interest to cancel her membership and refund the money she had already paid for the year.

“I was just kicked out and asked to leave,” Gieschen said.

“It really hurt. These are the people I grew up with,” she added.

Phone calls to the club’s president were not returned, and an attorney on behalf of the club said in an e-mail to the StarNews that the club declined to comment about the issue.

The club itself was founded in 1898 by Gieschen’s great-grandfather and other members of a German community that settled in the Wilmington area, Gieschen said.

For Gieschen, it was a place where she grew up and where she took her five children to spend summer days.

“For me, it was a place of tranquility. I didn’t have to be on a revolving stage,” she said.

But the memories Gieschen had of holidays, picnics and playing games at the club were from her days as a man.

Still, Gieschen said she’s the same internally. “The outer changes have been made, but I’m still the same person,” she said.

While a lawsuit has not been filed, and since the private club has a right to its own rules, Gieschen and her attorney are working to restore her membership without going to court.

But, Gieschen said, “The options are there.”

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SATURDAY NIGHT: WILMINGTON NC

scantron at ibiza

come hang out in the upstairs lounge of IBIZA and let SCANTRON provide the background music for the evening.

SCANTRON will be playing new releases from the best electro, indie, lounge, etc.

music will start at 10pm and go until the wee hours of 2am.

free before 10pm. $5 after. 18+

[directions]

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a Queer Collective in Durham, NC

A queer collective is forming and we want you!  We are ready for community building and direct action in Durham and across the Triangle!  We would <3 for you to join us at our first meeting on Tuesday, May 19, 2009!

We aim to strengthen the ties between existing networks in the Triangle’s LGBTQI community as well as fostering all-ages open spaces.  We aim to engage in reclaiming our community spaces, and to queer them with delight! 


A handful have gathered to discuss forming the organization, and some of y’all have met us through our ad hoc action to greet busloads of evangelicals on March 3, 2009, as they defended marriage at the State Capitol. 

Now we’re in for the long haul, and we aim to build our community through such events as:

  • Monthly Queer Movie Nights (outdoors is a must this time of year!)! *
  • Queer Alt-Pride in Conjunction with NC Pride 2009!
  • A Burlesque Troupe!
  • Queer Camp (camping, hiking, skillshares, alternative futures)!
  • Youth outreach!
  • Hot, sweet direct action!
  • Collaborating with collectives across the state!
  • And any project YOU can dream up!

We want you to bring your ideas for the organization to the table as we revive the group on Tuesday, May 19, 2009, from 7:00-9:00 p.m.!  We will meet at the public square on Corcoran Street between West Main and Parrish Streets (directly across the street from the SunTrust Building).


We will spend our time devising the name for our organization that night and then discuss and solidify our work plans for the upcoming months and weeks!

Join us - we’re here to recruit you!

<3!

We are a queer collective working to create a space for queer organizing that is not racist, classist, gender-preferential, ableist, body fascist, etc. We’ve formed in 2009 with interest in direct action, protest, radically challenging traditional gay/queer politics, and presenting a bold visual front to anti-LGBTQI movements.

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IF IT RAINS: let’s meet at Forest Hills Park on University Drive (http://maps.google.com/maps?oe=utf-8&client=firefox-a&ie=UTF8&q=forest+hills+park+durham&fb=1&split=1&gl=us&cid=4142749933774368519&li=lmd&ll=35.981739,-78.911898&spn=0.009567,0.015707&z=16&iwloc=A) - given that the weather forecast says no chance of rain on Tuesday, let’s say that’s unlikely to happen!
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NC Anti-Bully Legislation Goes to House
An anti-bullying bill that includes LGBT students has been given final approval in the North Carolina Senate and now heads to the House. This legislation will cover race, religion, disability, sexual orientation and gender identity. It would require any school employee who witnesses or knows of harassment or bullying to report the incidents to school officials.

The bill received final approval without debate. On Tuesday, it gained preliminary approval with a 25-22 vote following impassioned arguments on both sides.

Senate Bill 526 05/06/09.

“The NC Senate made history, standing up for the safety of all students, and for the first time passing legislation that includes sexual orientation and gender identity,” said Ian Palmquist, Executive Director of Equality NC. “Although the House has passed similar legislation in the past, we must all keep working hard to get this bill to the governor’s desk, as passage is far from assured.”
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Boone NC scores some gay points

Who would have thought? The small town of Boone is now the 3rd city in North Carolina to include sexual orientation and gender identity in their employment policies. Chapel HIll and Carrboro are the other two cities that include both in their policies as well. Things are looking up for North Carolina!

(source EqualityNC.org)

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What’s going on in Rowan County, NC?

Here are some upcoming events and happenings going on in Rowan County NC. If you leave in or near Rowan County, please support these events!

- Lake Norman GLBT Friday night out at Jokers Piano Bar March 27th, 7pm 21+ $5.00 cover RSVP “Michelle” mdlaug12@yahoo.com
More info at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/LakeNormanLGBT/

- Saturday, March 28th at 7pm. The Rowan County Gay Alliance will meet at the blue vine More info at http://rowcogayal.grou.ps/

- PFLAG meets every 2nd saturday of the month at Haven Luthern Church in Salisbury NC from 10am - 12noon. More info at http://www.salisbury-pflag.org/index2/

- QUICKNC will hold its anual spring picnic April4th in Kannapolis, NC at 5pm. More info at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/quicknc/

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What are you protecting?

North Carolina has carved its history as the progressive rabble-rouser of the South. As such, being a citizen of North Carolina affords you certain dignities, one of which is being able to recite your state’s rich history to anyone willing to listen. Such momentous events include acting as the birthplace of the first English child in the ‘New World’, being the last state to join the Confederacy in the Civil War, being the birthplace of modern aviation, and hosting the Greensboro Race Riots. North Carolina has truly been on the forefront of free-thinking and diversity in the South. Our citizens do not compromise their integrity in order to appease outside pressures. I am proud to have been raised in such a culturally and historically diverse area. It is for these reasons I am disturbed by the political grandstanding and controversy inducing measures being utilized under the guise of “protecting” marriage in the midst of skyrocketing unemployment, a faulty health care system, the ailing economy and general inequalities mounting in every section of our society.

Republican Representative Paul Stam (Wake County) is introducing yet another Constitutional Amendment restricting marriage in our state. A version of this bill has been introduced into the legislature for each of the last four sessions, albeit unsuccessfully. However, this has not stopped the Republican caucus in North Carolina from continuously trying to pass an Amendment.

The redundancy of trying to introduce such an amendment is that our state already recognizes the codified Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) law in place within the state and federal government. This law (N.C. Gen. Stat. § 51-1.2) defines marriage as strictly between a man and a woman. It goes on to state that marriages between same-sex couples will not be recognized, even if such marriages are performed out of state. This leaves the informed citizen wondering: Why try to pass a new amendment to our State Constitution when it is already covered in our general statutes?

The answer to this question is purely political. North Carolina has been leaninging Democratic ever since Ronald Reagan left office in 1988. Most recently, Barack Obama carried North Carolina, turning the state ‘blue’ for the first time in 30 years. The ideals of freedom and knowledge have always been basic tenets of our state, but when divisive politic is introduced, controversy is sure to follow. Republicans see their grip on North Carolina weakening, and know that by creating controversy they are making themselves seem relevant.

Controversy, on the whole, breeds interest as well as anger and nothing brings about more controversy then social issues such as equal rights for minorities. In order to stay relevant, Republicans turn to issues of ‘morality’, claiming superiority based on their shared beliefs. Arguing moral versus immoral in these cases is usually fruitless because certain beliefs are deeply engrained in Southern history and religion. But this is not the point: the point is to acknowledge that by amending our Constitution, we are sending a message of intolerance and hate to a minority group.

The very essence of our Constitution is to protect people’s rights, not take them away. As a means of bringing this argument into context, it was once illegal for African Americans to get married in North Carolina. Years later, people of different races and ethnicities were also barred from marrying outside of their own race. The shocking truth is that these actions were illegal until 1967! The Supreme Court ruled in Loving v. Virginia (1967) that, “Marriage is one of the ‘basic civil rights of man,’ fundamental to our very existence and survival….” This court case overturned all laws banning interracial marriage. This is one of the beauties of our laws and our Constitution; they are a living, breathing entity. There is a delicate balance of public opinion and protection inherent in the lawmaking process, but my hope is that our state is willing to protect its minority groups.

Being a homosexual born and raised in North Carolina, I have a bias of opinion when it comes to issues that so directly affect me. However, in this instance, I have no agenda in attacking the decisions already made by our State. I respect the outcome and the process because I understand that this is a measure that, at the time, was wholly supported by the public. However, we must not forget that the public also wholly supported Jim Crow laws, poll taxes and race restrictions in the times they were written. But now, with the enormous state budget deficits, the fact that one in six North Carolinians are without health insurance, and 1.5 million North Carolinians are at or below the poverty level, don’t you think its time we stopped focusing on discriminating against a small segment of people and started helping those in need?

The political process is a powerful one, and I believe if we can stop focusing on partisan politics, and controversial measures, we can focus on our educational systems, health care issues and poverty alleviation. Denying same-sex marriage should not take precedence over topics that need attention now. Let’s not waste time on issues that will just create controversy. Let us use our time wisely to find new ways to create jobs and lower the poverty levels in our state.

James Miller was born in Virginia Beach, VA, moved to the Outer Banks of North Carolina early in his childhood. Graduating from Currituck County High School in 2002, he decided to attend UNCW. Graduating Magna Cum Laude in 2006 with a BA in Philosophy and Religion, and a BS in Business Administration Marketing, James worked in the private business sector for two years. During that time, James worked to connect the LGBT Community of the Outer Banks with the rest of the state by starting OutOBX, an online educational community. James moved to Boston after being accepted into the Heller School for Social Policy and Management at Brandeis University and is currently pursuing his Masters of Public Policy in LGBT Activism. He is 25 and single.
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URGENT ACTION: Call Now!

Please call all of our legislators today! It will only take a minute. Right-wing, misinformed “religious” groups, fueled and underpinned by purely politcal motives are rallying outside the legislative building in support of the constitutional amendment to North Carolina’s constitution that would write in discrimination!

Call these legislators and share your disappointment with them signing on to the bill as cosponsors from our area:

Rep. Carolyn Justice
919-715-9664
Rep. Danny McComas
919-733-5786
Rep. Bonner Stiller
919-301-1450

All three of these legislators are out of step with the country and with the times are signing up for a bill that does not protect marriage, but writes in discrimination. They know it and are still doing it! This is not what we need in this state during this time!

Call and thank:

Rep. Sandra Hughes at
(919) 733-5754
Sen. Julia Boseman at
(919) 715-2525

Both of these legislators have stood up and said NO to op

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Out Impact THIS Friday: March 6th

Please join Be Yr Own Queero and our friends at Out Impact for night of music, friends and activism. The event is a benefit for Equality NC, who have also been very, very active and supportive in LGBTQ efforts. They have been doing great work on anti-bullying policies. (If you attended our L Word potluck a few weeks ago, you might remember signing a petition about safer schools. Yep, that was Equality NC)

Be Yr Own Queero will be present at the event as a Community Sponsor, so please stop by our table and check out our goodies!

When: March 6th, 2009 9:00pm - 1:00am
Where: The Soapbox (255 N. Front St, Wilmington, NC)
Who: Kim Dicso, Carsie Blanton, Mark James & Jenn Grinels
Cost: $5.00

Check out the latest Dykes + Fags podcast to hear music from Kim Dicso & Jenn Grinels.

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2009 UNITY Conference

From the UNITY Conference website:
The Southeastern Regional Unity Conference is an annual gathering of progressive lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, intersex, and queer identified people and their allies in the Southeast. It was founded to create dialogues about the intersections of gender and sexuality with ability, age, class, faith, health, and race/ethnicity, to explore strategies for effective grassroots organizing, and to share work that we and other LGBTIQ activists are doing in the Southeast. In generating these conversations, the Unity Conference serves to foster a progressive Southeastern LGBTIQ movement that affirms and reflects all aspects of the identities of LGBTIQ people.

This year’s conference will take place at the University of North Carolina in Chapel Hill from Friday, April 3 to Sunday, April 5. The Conference is a project of the Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender - Straight Alliance, a student group at UNC-Chapel Hill. It is run entirely by students, though is intended for a broader audience of LGBTIQ and allied community members.

Register here if you are NOT a UNC student. If you are, register here.

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Rowan board votes in favor of anti-gay marriage resolution

SALISBURY, N.C. — More than 100 people turned out to the Monday, Feb. 16 evening meeting of the Rowan County Board of Commissioners as elected officials took up the issue of same-sex marriage. In a standing-room-only board chambers, members of the board voted unanimously to approve a resolution urging the North Carolina General Assembly to pass a state constitutional amendment banning any relationship recognition for same-sex couples. Read More at Q-Notes.

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pam spaulding of pam's house blendThis is a great article on Pam Spaulding of Pam’s House Blend (winner of the Lezzy Award in the Feminism / Political Category). She is also a North Carolinian, based in Durham NC. The article talks about how her blog started out of frustration when 11 states passed laws banning same-sex marriage. That was back in 2004 and now 5 years later, her blog is one of the most influential and most read LGBTQ blogs on the internet.

Pam’s story only confirms that our voices CAN be heard and that we must not remain silent.

Read the full article on the Washington Post

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Stop the Marriage Discrimination Amendment

NC Equality

“They’re at it again. With right wing legislators filing a constitutional amendment denying same-sex couples access to marriage and any other kind of relationship recognition this week, we need you to ask your elected officials not to sign on as a sponsor.

Take action now to ask your legislators to oppose the amendment. Have an even greater impact by putting the message below in your own words!” -

Equality NC is taking action against the “Defense of Marriage” ammendment and giving us the tools to speak up. Follow this link to send a message to your current state legislator to encourage them not to sponsor or vote for it . If you’re a NC resident, make sure to send the message fellow NC Representative or State Senator. Let’s redirect the focus on what’s legilation should really be focusing on: addressing unemployment and budgeting state funds to improve public education or healthcare…not taking rights away.

Follow up on Equality NC events and create an alliance by joining their Facebook group.

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Picket Human Rights Campaign Gala 2009 -Charolotte,NC

Dear Friends,

I would like to inform you that I have set up a Demonstration with a picket line at the Westin Hotel and the Charlotte Convention Center on February the 21st. The Charlotte Police Dept has been notified in accordance with the law and is a legal Picket. The Demonstration will start at 5pm until 7pm.

The reason for the Protest is that HRC, the Human Rights Campaign in negations with Congress for the Employment Non Discrimination Act. Agreed with the Congressional Committee to Delete the Transgender Community from the Bill, giving us no chance for equal employment. The Human Rights Campaign was paid by the transgender community through membership fee’s and donations to represent us in a full and inclusive ENDA. HRC failed us by agreeing to elimate us from the bill.

We as the transgender community deplore this action by HRC, who claims to be a transgender inclusive organization. I ask the LGBT community to support us by boycotting the Charlotte Gala in hopes that the LGBT community will send a clear message to HRC that we are a family that supports each other. If you would like to participate in our demonstration contact me at janiceCovington1@aol.com.

Thank you,

Janice Covington Allison

www.transcarolina.org

Picket Location and Time:

Time: February 21, 2009 from 5pm to 7pm
Location: Westin Hotel, Charlotte Convention center
Street: Collage St
City/Town: Charlotte NC
Contact Info: 704-309-6051
Organized By: Janice Covington

For further reading about the Transgender Community dispute with HRC go to:

Provided by: Raleigh GLBT Cultural Report & News

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This was sent to us in a newletter called “Raleigh GLBT Cultural Report & News”, and I believe you can sign up for the digital format via raleighGLBTReport@att.net. The next newsletter will be out Feb 23rd (so be on the lookout). Here’s a story that needs your help right away! There’s already a buzz of comments about the article, check it out here.

“On Feb. 24, the bishops of both dioceses will hold a news conference at the legislature to announce their support for an amendment to the state’s constitution defining marriage as a union of a man and a woman. The effort is intended to quash the possibility of same-sex marriage, should a court find North Carolina’s law prohibiting gay unions unconstitutional.” -newsobserver.com

Raligh GLBT Report suggests writing letters to The News & Observer Editor, plus write letters to The Catholic Diocese of Raleigh / North Carolina , then contact all your elected officials (pdf) with your personal and community concerns. Raleigh and North Carolina need your support!

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